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Sunday, January 30, 2011

In 66 Days...

I will be 31 years old. I have 66 days days to change a lot that is going on in my live. Here are the things that I HAVE to change in the next 66 days:
1- Lose weight.... there is no reason why I am this heavy
2- Change my outlook on life.. I hate that I am mad so much...
3-Change my daily routine
4- Just be happy!!!

In 66 Days...

I will be 31 years old. I have 66 days days to change a lot that is going on in my live. Here are the things that I HAVE to change in the next 66 days:
1- Lose weight.... there is no reason why I am this heavy
2- Change my outlook on life.. I hate that I am mad so much...
3-Change my daily routine
4- Just be happy!!!

Why?

Today is the day I am going to change the things that are going on in my life. I started the progress already Jan. 1 but I tripped a few days ago because of the problems that is going with my husband and I.


I am a 30 year old mother of three. I have been married to my husband for the last five years. Two of those five years my husband was away with the USMC. For the first half of that time I was preggo with my third child. The second half that time I was all alone with three kids. I learned first hand what being a single mother felt like. I look back now and I don't know how I did it.

Along with being all alone I lost a lot of weight during that time.

Now life feels like a blur to me...

I am always upset over something and when I am upset I go right to the food to help me.

That has to change....I have to stop.

I am going to create my weight lost plan and stick to it.....

Why?

Today is the day I am going to change the things that are going on in my life. I started the progress already Jan. 1 but I tripped a few days ago because of the problems that is going with my husband and I.


I am a 30 year old mother of three. I have been married to my husband for the last five years. Two of those five years my husband was away with the USMC. For the first half of that time I was preggo with my third child. The second half that time I was all alone with three kids. I learned first hand what being a single mother felt like. I look back now and I don't know how I did it.

Along with being all alone I lost a lot of weight during that time.

Now life feels like a blur to me...

I am always upset over something and when I am upset I go right to the food to help me.

That has to change....I have to stop.

I am going to create my weight lost plan and stick to it.....

Saturday, January 29, 2011

Starting the Kindergarten Process


My Big Al is heading to Kindergarten in September.... HOLY COW!

What does that mean? The search is on... The search has been on since the school year has begun.

I am not the only one that has started the kindergarten process. Nicole (creator of Bronxmama) and Lisa (contributing writer for Bronxmama and creator of Autism Wonderland and TriBoro Diva) are going crazy over kindergarten also. Margie (creator of Speaking on the Spectrum and Tired Mom) is going through the process in Utah. There are tons of people in the same kindergarten boat. However, this is the first time I have been on this boat.

Five years ago, Big Bea was in Pre-K going to Kindergarten. I wasn't nervous about the process one bit.  She had attended CS50 for Head Start and Pre-K so naturally she just moved forward to K within the same school. Ms. Middleton was her teacher. It was Ms. Middleton's first year as a K teacher, so that year was a little bumpy but successful nonetheless.

This time around is very different. Big Al is currently enrolled in a Committee on Preschool Special Education (CPSE) center. He is enrolled at Easter Seals Child Development Center on East Tremont off of Castle Hill. He has attended Easter Seals since he was 2 years old with Early Intervention. This center only services children ages 2-5. So that means that this school year is his last.

Now here is my dilemma...Big Al has an Individualize Educational Plan (IEP).  He receives almost every type of service minus applied behavior analysis (ABA) and a one to one paraprofessional. That limits my decision for his placement. Also what limits the search even more, I can't sue the city and send him off to a city funded private school.

Why not?

Well, his development has not stalled. His cognitive ability has steadily increased and he is currently on target compared to "normal" Pre-K students. In fact, he has nearly reached all of his annual IEP goals in all services areas and its only January. So that means New York City Department of Education has held up their part of the IEP. If they had failed in any way, an agreement would need to be made and that is usually a free private school education.

The list of schools is limited to public schools that provide his services. The center has begun gathering the necessary paperwork to transition. In the spring, the evaluations coordinator will be contacting me on her and the NYCDOE indicating the recommended special education services and where will they be provided. I can agree or disagree on the decision.

Luckily, I can apply for an admission in the school his older sister’s is enrolled in. The school has all the services he is currently getting but is outside of our district. The school doesn't have to take him but they also can't stop me from applying according to the NYCDOE guidelines. It would be great to have the older kids in the same school. Which would be a huge weight off my shoulders. At one point all three kids were attending three schools and/or type of schooling.
 

Monday, January 24, 2011

These Words Are My Own.....

I've started to work on my Blog Shape Up Plan that I signed up for over at Mom Blogger Club.

The shape up plan has three steps and here they are:

"Step One:  Editorial Calendar.  In order to build your writing muscles you need to have a plan for steady writing. Commit to posting at least three times a week for the next 11 weeks. (Are you serious? THREE times a week.... do I really have that much to talk about?)   By thinking ahead you won’t get stuck without something to write.  Make an appointment to write just like any meeting and put it in your calendar. (Is the family going to let me keep my appointment with my writing?)

Step Two: Set up a Google Reader or other amalgamation site where you will organize all of your blog subscriptions. This will help you keep track of blogs easily, help spur ideas for yourself and keep you abreast of the latest memes. (DONE! ...a long time ago.)
You will comment on at least three other blogs every week. By reaching out and building a conversation on other blogs you create engagement.  Already doing this?  Branch out beyond the mommyblog world. (I have tried this in the past....I must start again.)

Step Three:  Retweet posts and links with commentary this week, at three times a day.  Pick tweets that are relevant, no giveaways or contests.You can plan ahead and schedule these tweets using tweetdeck or HootSuite. (I am so not big on Tweeter, I am a Facebooker.... we'll see how that goes.)" (Mom Blogger Club, 2011)

This shape up plan is going to help me even more with my writing. As a pointed out many times before writing is NOT my best subject. Many of my teachers would never believe that I have a blog.

PS: Thanks Margie for being anal retentive (her words) and combing through my pages.

Sunday, January 23, 2011

He Doesn't Talk Much

Big Al has come so far with his speech development. Yesterday, I realized that he has so much more to go.
Yesterday, the dance studio had a power outage. We had to wait in the lobby while the staff stalked the Chinese take out restaurant where their power box was located. Boy was the owner of BDT P.O. While waiting in the lobby two little girls were playing ring around the rosy. Big Al wanted to join in on the fun but he couldn't tell them that he wanted to play. He just walked around them. He was frustrated that he couldn't join in and sat down. After waiting for 15 minutes the kind staff at BDT said that we had the choice to stay or make up the class on Wednesday. Wednesday it is! When we down stairs and I decided to stop by the barber shop that's right under the studio. He was very excited.

He saw the motorcycle game in the corner of the shop and right away and said, "Mommy, motorcycle!" The very nice barber in the corner by the motorcycle grabbed Big Al right up. He tried talking to Big Al but Big Al repeated everything he said or said yes.
He asked, "Is he two years old."
"No he is four."
"He must be very shy."
"No no... she doesn't talk much."
"That's a good thing sometimes."

The barber pulled out two quarters and told Big Al "If you do a good job when I cut your hair you get a motorcycle ride." Big Al put his game face on and sat like a big boy for his cut. The barber tried so hard to get Big Al to talk but he noticed some thing different. When Big Al got on the motorcycle he didn't know what do on it. He was looking around at everything but the game. When the game was done we walked home.

We need to figure out how to turn on the speech switch.

That's Not A Cookie!

Sorry for my short absence from blogging. I had a cold that took my a week to fight off. I am happy to be back.

Well....

I think that Little Al oesn't like me.... I am sure because I have started potty training her. She is the girl interrupted. Every time I see the signs of potty time I grab her up and put her on the potty. She HATES it.

Well this weekend I have been following her around like a hawk. She has been holding in the poop because of it.

So around 11am she decides to go into the kitchen and play with the pots on the kitchen table. A little while later Big Al runs into the living room and says, "Mommy, I want cookie...'Little Al' has cookies."
"Cookies?!" She rushes into the living room with something in both hands. "Those are not cookies!"
Little Al had two large pieces of poop in both hands. I ran her to the toilet and made her drop them. I put her right into the tub.  I looked for the damage. Thank god she didn't touch and drop anymore.

Why Little Al why?

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Part 2

Today, I attended the Cool Culture event at The Studio in Harlem. The event was spoiled by the clear racism in the air.

Now.... white skin does not mean I am less of a person.....

The first thing that happen was I was over looked by ALL but one staff member and/or volunteer at the event. I said hello to everyone and they looked pass me and said hello to my husband. I know that Black is Beautiful .... too bad that those wearing those tee-shirts didn't see that I am the mother of Beautiful children of African decent. They went out of their way to look over me.

The second thing....an African American mother held the door so that my husband could walk through it and released the door as I walked through and give me a nasty look and sucked her teeth.... for real? If it wouldn't for my husband grabbing the door I would have got knocked in the face with it.

Third.... Every young African American women gave me the "look" and/or stepped in my way to purpose. 

My husband didn't notice what was going on until I pointed it out. He wanted to leave right away because he didn't want me to feel uncomfortable. I told him I didn't want to be run out of the museum.

The saddest thing is it was the younger generations that was doing this to me.

There were two elderly African American ladies there enjoying the museum. They were as sweet as can be. They greeted me and Big Al and smiled at every time Big Al pointed something out in a painting. These ladies were alive when racism and segregation was every where. They understand that the world has changed and there is no need to behave that way.

And I thank those ladies for being simply.... nice.

Actions speak louder than words.

Dream Big @ The Studio Museum in Harlem with Cool Culture Part 1

Today the family and I attended the Cool Culture event Dream Big at The Studio Museum In Harlem. It's been too long since we last used our Cool Culture family pass.

The exhibits at The Studio were very interesting. It was nice to take my family to an art gallery that focuses on artist with African descent and inspired by black culture.  I was able to expose my children to their parts of their African descent. Their grand father is Nigerian. Most of the exhibits where based on African American culture.
Picture by Cool Culture

It was great to see that the museum was packed in. I wanted to go back to the museum when the crowd is small. So that we can have an easier time walking around.

The Studio is sensory friendly when there is a small crowd. The lighting helps focus your attention to art.
On this trip you can really notice how much Big and Little Al's attention span improved. They were able focus on each piece. Big Al recognized what was going on in each painting and label colors. Little Al loved when I pointed out each letter in Mark Bradford's Alphabet.

Sorry I Don't Speak Spanish....

That's right I do not speak Spanish.....

Puerto Rican Flag
 Parris Island, SC


My parents were born in Puerto Rico in the 50's. My mother moved from PR to Brooklyn in 1961 and my dad in 1975.....They married in Brooklyn and had my sister and me.

They speak Spanish very well... in fact my daddy still have his accent.

Me.... I don't speak Spanish. My sister's doesn't speak Spanish either. This is very frustrating. Growing up with the last name Vega and no Spanish. I still get, "Shame on you that you don't speak Spanish."

Now that I have changed my last name to Guobadia, most think that I am Italian. SMH! (The last name is Nigerian.)

Is this really my fault? I don't think it is. My family should have instilled the language within me when I was a baby.
Yes, I could have embraced the language when I took courses in through out my school career but didn't. Funny thing... I got A's in this course.

I am Hispanic and I don't speak Spanish..... does that mean I don't embrace my culture?

Not at all. A lot of people seem to think different.

I express my culture through food and history. I share my culture the best way I can with my children.

I do have an understand is the language.... the words just don't form in my mouth.....

Saturday, January 15, 2011

Mommy's Giveaway!

This winter New Yorker got hit with two snowstorm so far.... Were you ready for those storms? Will you be ready for the next one? 

The NYC Office of Emergency Management would like to encourage New Yorkers to Resolve to be Ready this year, and prepare themselves for an emergency by taking three steps:  Make a Plan, Get a Kit, Be Informed. 

On OEM’s Facebook page you can find more information and even take the first step in making a plan by selecting and sharing your own meeting place using the Get Ready NYC: My Meeting Place Facebook application.  

One of my lucky readers will be winning one "emergency preparation kit" consisting of a $25 Target gift card, flashlight, AA batteries, travel first aid kit and protein bars. 

To win you must do two of three of the following:
1- Go over to the OEM's Facebook page and use the My Meeting Place Facebook app
2- Submit a photo showcasing how you are preparing for emergencies in the New Year to the OEM's Facebook page
3- Go over to Becky, Alex & Aly's Mom Facebook page and click like

Leave a comment below if you did number 1 or 2 so that I can keep track.

You can also download the Resolve to Be Ready calender here. The calender contains quarterly, monthly, and weekly reminders useful for everyone to help prepare you for emergencies, large and small, throughout the year.

Here's the legal stuff:
- Prize: One "emergency preparation kit" consisting of a $25 Target gift card, flashlight, AA batteries, travel first aid kit, and protein bars
- An outside provider will handle the fulfillment and mail the kit to the winner
- Giveaway is Open to US Residents only
- The giveaway is being provided to Mom but the thoughts and opinions are Mom's and are not influenced by the prize or prizing.


Edited 1/18/2011: Giveaway ends Jan. 22nd, 2011 at midnight.
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Thursday, January 13, 2011

Gone Too Soon..

At every school funcation, our former prinpal would say, "When you walk into the doors of CS 50, no matter how short your stay may be, you are apart of our 50 family....always."

Those words, that Mr. Parker said so very often, are so very true.

No matter how crazy life is... No matter what non-sense is going on in that building.... we are a community... we are a family.

Sometimes you don't truly appreciated that until one person from our family is lost.

On Monday, Raymond M. passed away.

Raymond, Green Shirt
He was apart of the Clara Barton School Class of 2010. Which means he would have turn 12 years old this year.


I am unsure what childhood disease he lost his fight too.

All my memories of him were great and funny.

I've known him since he walked in the library with his big eyes of amazement many years ago.

I learn more about him with I was assigned to work in his 3rd grade S.E. classroom almost 3 years ago to the date.  I was pregnant with Aly at the time and he made it his mission during lunch to get me a fruit because he knew I craved oranges and apples.

I can hear his dorky laugh now. "Ms. Gobadia? Want a apple?"

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You don't realize how many people work with one child until you start listing them.

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We missed you when you graduated this pass June and we miss you even more that you are gone.....

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

What Does That Spell, Alex?

HAND MOMMY!
Big Al, out of no where, started writing! He guided himself to write the words that he has learn from "Your Baby Can Read." He still learning that words are formed from left to right. So some words he wrote were backwards but WHO CARE! Not me that's for sure. He wrote and identified:
Alexander
pet
pupp (puppy)
bow (bow)
dmaa (elbow)
cheek
loo p (look up)
look dom (look down)
bak (back)
hamd (hand)

He enjoyed himself so much that he didn't want to go to bed. I never thought I would have to fight him to go to bed because he wants to write! I am so over enjoyed with his progress. I can't wait to see what he doesn't next.

Thursday, January 6, 2011

So, What's Next?

I can't believe that Little Al has been in Early Intervention for one year now. I've never made it an annual Individualize Family Service Plan IFSP review. So now that the year is creeping up upon us.... what's next?

Well.. for the last three months myself and the fleet of service providers have been building up a stack of paperwork to make sure that Little Al gets the things that she needs. Believe or not I am still combating the battle that happened at the 6-month review. (Here the flashback.... Amy vs. The EIDO) Once Little Al entered Easter Seals everyone agreed that is needs more. More days, more services and center-based.

What do I need to get more for Little Al?
-I had to make sure that everyone is on the same page. I spoke to all her providers and inquired about the need for the increase, change and additional in services.
-Write a letter. I wrote a letter explaining why Little Al needs a change in location for OT.
-Update physical. Shots, blood work ...the works!
-Update PT and OT prescriptions.
-Many, many, many calls to Nadia, our service coordinator. She is on speed dial.
-GOALS! It's a family plan.... so the goals are for the family to help Little Al move forward.

Speaking of goals .... The language for the goals have changed. I feel that the language used for the goals have been dumbed down. Here is one of Little Al's outcomes from her first IFSP: Alyson will label common objects so that she can emerge in age appropriate concepts. Now here is one from the 6 month IFSP: Little Al will be able to tolerate more (washing, bathing, dressing, breakfast time) so family are to leave the home on time for school/work.

Here are some background information on these outcomes.....I wrote them! I wrote both outcomes without the help of the EIDO and SC I had at the times they were written. Now..... The new outcomes/goals I hate! I don't talk this way....why should it be written on my child's IFSP this way? I know that I am apart of a handful of parents that understand the in's and outs of special education but come on... I don't want anything dumbed down because I don't need them to be.

So here are my Functional Outcomes and Objectives that I want to be included in new IFSP.

1-Functional Outcome
(What I want) Little Al will verbally communicate so that her family will understand her needs and wants
(What they want) Little Al will tell mom what she wants to eat and play with so that both are happier with each other. (boring)

Objectives
Little Al will ask family members and center-based service providers to play with her and her favorite toys for age appropriate play. 
Little Al will be able to point and identify family members names.
Little Al will eat breakfast, lunch and dinner every night with family members and center-based providers and will intimate sounds and/or label foods that are commonly found in the household and at the center.

2- Functional Outcome
Little Al will walk up and down stairs with little to no support from adults so that she can independently walk up and down stairs.

Objectives
Little Al will begin to walk up and down the steps using just the hand rails or walls along the sides of the stairs case.
Little Al will regain her balance if she leans too far forward or backwards.


More outcomes to come ...